To unfriend someone of Facebook may be considered normal – happens all the time in the virtual and the real world as well. However, the only drawback is that Facebook does not provide a straight-forward solution to Re-add deleted friends, in case you need to do so. The virtual world was supposed to make things easier, but in this context, it’s just the opposite. In the real world, for instance, if you feel that you need to give a second chance to your unfriended friend, you can just make a call, arrange a meet, or send a text message. On Facebook, however, there are no readymade solutions.

Some Facebook experts suggest that you contact Facebook’s customer support and they will do the rest. Give it a try and see if it works. Other than that, you can also try sending a friend request to your unfriended friend using his/her email ID. Here, you need to remember that it’s you who has to take the initiative because your unfriended friend cannot do anything in this matter; they can neither see you in search results, nor can send you friend requests using your email ID. So, you can say that the responsibility of making things better rests with you initially.

Hope this helps.

If this world was perfect, we may never have felt the need to apologize. Everything would happen just as desired and there would never have been a reason to say or do something bad or hurtful. However, reality is that we don’t live in such a world, and that’s why we seem to make mistakes from time to time. Apologizing is a way to tell your loved ones that you care about them and that it was only a one-off event, not something you carry in your heart. Accidents happen, most of them due to human errors.

At some point of time in our lives, we all have said or done something that was hurtful to someone close to us. The important thing to do is convey a sincere apology. Life is all about relationships and if you want to repair and retain the most important relationships that are part of your life, then you must learn how to say “I am sorry” the right way.

Mean it when you say “I am sorry”: Don’t apologize just for the sake of it. When you say you are sorry you should really mean it. If your apologies are not sincere, the other person will know it and all your further efforts will prove useless, even if genuine.

Admit that you were wrong: By admitting that you were wrong, you allow your loved ones to understand that you too know what you have done that has resulted in all the hurt. Often, people say bad things when they are angry or simply hungry, so there is not always a real reason why something bad was said in the first place. So avoid explaining things, instead just focus on making the other person understand that you are genuinely sorry and that you will not repeat the mistake again.

Use humor: If things have cooled down a bit, you can use some humor by asking the other person what it would take to bring back things to normal. The other person may ask you to fill an entire notebook with “I am sorry”; ask you to hold your ears and do up and down a hundred times; ask you to sponsor their favorite food; or simply ask you to be physically whipped a hundred times.

Tell them you will never repeat the mistake: This is very important because their decision to forgive you will depend hugely on how well they trust you that you are fully capable of not repeating the mistake. And you yourself need to make sure that you do not make mistakes again. Sometimes in life, it is difficult to get a second chance, so you better learn when you might still have time.

Be patient: When you apologize, don’t do that with the belief that you will eventually be pardoned. In some cases, you may never get pardoned. Just do whatever you think will help convey the message that you are TRULY SORRY and respect the other person’s decision even if they refuse to pardon you. Be ready, it may take days, weeks, months or may be even years. DON’T FORCE PEOPLE INTO PARDONING YOU.

If there was ever a scope for things to normalize, they will. So, after a period of time, you should stop apologizing and give the person time to think. Constantly ranting about your being sorry will devalue your sincere apologies and might make the other person even more distrustful of you. In the meantime, learn to value your relationships and how not to repeat the same mistakes twice.

Some people said India is the next superpower. I don’t agree one bit. Here’s why:

We don’t have enough nukes.

We have a slightly disgraced army that resorts to rape and atrocities that have been proof.

The same is true for the police.

The country is hit with drought and no one bothered to tell the people, it was NASA that made the news public, so, and then the government told us.

Contrary to popular belief, India is not an outsourcing capital but primarily an agricultural nation. Now there’s no water and the farmers are committing suicide and the economies spiraling downwards.

Recession has already scared the nation.

Most office goers that have overseas links are always in fear that the outsourced jobs will be snatched away and giving to newer outsourcing destinations.

Most of the outsourced working class gets an average salary between $400 and $600 and live with that for years.

Other jobs within the local market offers even more modest pay scales.

No one knows how many people live in the country as the last census report drew a lot of flak as school teachers were expected to complete the job by going to people’s houses and inquire about the inhabitants.

They further outsourced the job to jobless neighborhood lads for $.2.5. This is a decade old update.

There’s hardly any education in all societies, and worse still, it’s not equal education.

There’s no government health care for people. As of now 66 people have already died of Swine Flu.

House maids get paid a mere $20 for cleaning utensils, clothes, sweeping, & swabbing.

We still fight over caste and gender, leading to murder.

For all who think India is an emerging economy, it’s not. Just because the Taj is accessible and Hard Rock Café is a great place to drink with friends, it’s not something you should rant about for life.
Look at the bigger picture, the world as I see it is way ahead.

Contrary to what the world believes in, I think the world is divided not by class, religion, geography or any other reasons that we normally read in the media. The reality is that the world just consists of two kinds of people – happy people and the non-happy people and that exactly is the reason for all types of conflict in this world.

So, who is to be blamed? Well, the non-happy people may appear to be the culprit, but it isn’t so. Amazingly, the happy lot aren’t to be blamed either. I think the problem is deeper, may be it has to do with creation itself, may be God created this world like this. I am not sure why the world is this way, but it is and we cannot deny that. And I guess, the world will remain like this till the end. So, I guess you should consider yourself lucky if you happen to be in the happy lot. As for the non-happy people, I don’t think I have much of an advice to offer, since I think their fate was sealed the moment they stepped in this world.

Strange, but it is true, its not difficult to find two people working in the same office, in the same position, earning more or less the same money, yet one is happy like hell and the other just cannot stop cursing life and all its miseries. I am not blaming the non-happy lot; they may have their own rightful reasons for being so unhappy about life. May be something is wrong with their mental circuitry, may be they THINK that they have lost something valuable, may be they attach too much importance to comparing their individual success with that of others. May be its unrequited love, who knows.

Anyways, the point is that no one can be blamed, as was rightly said “we are all here to do what we are all here to do”. So where does it all end? Well, that’s difficult to say because life goes on, irrespective of whether one is happy or unhappy. That’s certainly is not good news for the non-happy lot since it implies that they have to endure more of the pain and carry it to their grave. So if you belong to the happy lot, I would advise you to nothing else but keep being happy, that’s all. Keep spreading happiness and sometimes try to help those that might be unhappy.

For the unhappy lot, I would suggest that they try to keep themselves busy, listen to music, read something, watch movies, earn some money, have nice food, flirt with whomsoever may be available, and if nothing works, just go to some bar, sit in the corner table and get badly drunk, if you can puke, all the better.

Nothing like sitting in your balcony with a drink in your hand, some odd song playing in the background, the cool wind blowing in your face and thinking what your lost love may be doing with their current partner. If then you realize that you are still alive; you must understand that you have more strength to endure the miseries of life. Although, if you were really courageous, you would not have thought twice about jumping off from your balcony.

The point is it’s your choice, it’s your  life, do whatever you want to do with it. Ignore people, ignore what they think, don’t bother how they respond, just be free, go with the flow and one day you shall find yourself with the happy lot. That’s the only way the transformation can happen, if you need it that is, I have no problem if you don’t wish to make a difference and want to continue being with the unhappy lot. Absolutely no issues at all. “Get busy dying, or get busy living”. Its up to you, take your pick.